Common RESPECT in the forums

Not to alienate any specific people, but a word of what "I" think shouldn't happen in a "working", "healthy" forum. 

1. You cannot dictate what people choose to post, so therefore don't make comments questioning the integrity of the topic. It only puts down the OP, and who wins there?

2. Respect peoples opinions even if you don't agree. You guys, not all but some, seem to live in your own little world here on chess.com, where just because you're on the internet, talking downright rudely to eachother is okay. Well it's not. Do not insult someones opinion, and do not toss it away, they must have a reason for saying what they're saying. 

3. This one, I was told by another user from the forums, and it's true. The point of any discussion or debate is not for you to win the arguement, but  for those involved to ultimately become wiser. If you already have the mindset that , "this guy is DEFINATELY wrong, what the heck's he talking about?" you won't learn anything, and who knows, maybe you werent so right yourself. 

Defence against the comments I KNOW you have prepared. 

 Now this is not a problem that you're hurting peoples feelings boo hoo,.. no, what you're doing is making this a very offensive enviroment, where you could innocently state your, WELCOME opinon (cause this IS a forum you know), and have a ton of people stomping on it, calling it foolish, stupid etc,.. its just not cool. YES this is a lecture, and sorry, but YES at least "I" think it's needed. Who am I to lecture the members of chess.com? I'm terricotta, simple as that, and this is what was on my mind. I know chess.com has its own rules for the forums, but it wont hurt for people not to stand on or near the boundary of acceptable and unacceptable, just be nice and courteous.  RANT OVER! 

Wow! So...you DON'T like the forums?

dude, seriously? 

Well then "dude", I assume you have a batch of microchips to modify people's behaviour, otherwise, I have no clue how your demands will be met, "dude"

my demands will be met by people hopefully, listening to me. This topic is to share what i was thinking. Does that satisfy all your skepticism?

My skepticism is only slightly alleviated. "This topic is to share what I was thinking." , I realize that, but when I read your plea for:

"2. Do not insult someones opinion, and do not toss it away, they must have a reason for saying what they're saying."

I think to myself, 'Yes, there is a reason', but, sometimes I am quite disappointed with that reason.

In the end, creating a forum that follows YOUR rules may be interesting. And I wish you would post a link to it

   http://www.ratemydrawings.com/community/viewtopic.php?id=9244      not that this forum follows everything id prefer, its just that you can say something , "not common" without having 100 people decend on you, making posts about how foolish you and your topic are.

Seriously, the threads seem similar. "Drawing"? Are you kidding me? That is soooo far removed from a place, like Chess.com, that can actually tell you, you're wrong. "Drawing"? Seriously "dude".

I don't understand what you're saying.

Well, I went to the link you posted and did not find what you demanded should take place in the Chess.com forums. In fact, I don't understand how you are comparing a place that is subjective, to a place that is calculative?

Its not about chess vs art, its about common respectfullness. I showed you that link because the creater of the thread posted a topic that was unusual, and many people disagreed. However, he was not bombarded with rude comments calling him and the topic foolish. Chess or not chess, theres no reason for that sort of behavior. Just be nice is all im stressing here, is that really something you can argue with?

We are never going to know what you think is "nice". If you don't get the attacks, on other people, that I read in the link to the forum you posted, it may be your problem alone

It's a nice concept OP, certainly something to strive for but there is one major thing working against it. People are rewarded for being rude. Look at Judge Judy! Seriously, if you break it down in nature, the more of a jerk a guy is to other people, the more females he has lined up to mate with him, so what chance in hell does peace have? Not my rules, just an observation.

That all sounds nice, I can't wait for everyone to read it and follow it and rainbows.

I have actually watched "Judge Judy"...strange...But in my opinion there are two Judge Judys. One that is funny and on point, one that is crazy, calling everybody an idiot. The good and the bad of Judge Judy...

Take away her rudeness pal, and you take away her high ratings (unfortunately.)

Wait...

Judge Judy has lots of males lined up for her?

This is very confusing and I'm not sure I like where it is going.

actually, females i think.  but it is hard to say because it only talks about male jerks. 

Like I said, I'm very worried about the direction this is taking

Well let's face it Judge Judy is pretty manly!