Female Players

Believe me, I am extremely fluent in sarcasm, and apparently so good at it, some people can't even tell when I'm being for real. I do, however, answer the question, "What's wrong?" because how else is the other person going to know? Read my mind? Just because one believes the other should just know what's wrong doesn't mean he/she will. If you really want to fix the problem and not keep arguing, the best way to do that is to say what the problem is, bring it out into the open. Getting mad because the other assumes 'nothing' is wrong when you say 'nothing' is wrong is childish. I'm a huge believer in honesty, talking openly, and catching problems before they turn into arguments. Just my opinion, though. 

@ knightrider1982: I have no idea, but it is SO immature!

@ nameno1had: Lol @ sarcasm detectors! "Whatever" is my daughter's favorite word when she starts losing an argument, haha...and I always say, "So that means 'whatever' I'm saying is right and you just don't want to admit it." Her reply? "Whatever!"

For real, though, actually talking about problems helps create solutions. Been there, done that. I honestly can't remember the last time my boyfriend and I had an actual argument. 

Well said Melanie....I can't stand that word "whatever"...to me it sounds like a childish way of admitting defeat without giving the other person their due plaudits for winning the argument. ....that's not my real smile btw,

(Ha ha. Indeed. Personally, I never truly got how it is that women & men are like the proverbial "cats & dogs" when there're times females can~in certain inexplicable to us dudes, that is, moments~be "beachy"[heh]. Or we guys turn into such pussycats! Dunno.

As it is, I just think some Men are from Mars, others act like Klingons from Uranus...

But then, Women, one n all, are truly from Venus.)

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Women are from everywhere!

that is sexist

Seriously?  Don't go searching out bad posts, you'll always find one.  Vast majority of people on this thread are pretty sensible. 

Lol. AND....there is an forum on 'anti-social' people here.

Wooo. DAMMIT. gotta charge my phone. Ack. Brb.

(Although there is an great episode of Big Bang, right now..)

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@ whitefooted: Thank you and I think you're right, it is childish.

Some who play chess may be 'silent, brooding types' but that doesn't mean we all are. I have awesome conversation with a lot of my opponents. Some we just play without talking. I think it's a generalization based on an out-dated stereo-type and absolutely not true at all.

And, najdorf96, I think ALL people can be 'beachy' not just women, but I do think some women have cornered the market on it, lol!

Lol. No comment, melz (obviously on your "beachy" women take)

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But

As there are several forums popping up, virtually similiar to this one... I gotta say, it is due to your efforts that they even have something ta chat about! Heh.

I've been sort of distracted lately (I'd lost two team matches in a row-being the lead player in both- qualified for advanced rounds in two dif tourneys and trying ta have a life (Spurs won!) I have been persona nongrata. Sorry!

Yayyyyy, Spurs!!! They've been my team for as long as I can remember!!

Good luck on the advanced rounds!

One of my favorite things to say to biggest, meanest, nastiest, guy on a construction site, who is complaining is, " damn, you b!t@# worse than a woman"....( I fully expect some some flack for this comment but....I will care at a more opportune time)

I'm not going to give you flack; I've known a lot of people and if I had to pick one gender that is 'beachy,' it's definitely women. Men can be beaches, too. Some women just carry it too far and give us all a bad name. Like all stereo-types, though, it can be true, but is not always true.

Lol. (I'd been an construction worker for 6 yrs before switching to the restaurant industry in '09 when the market crashed and work dried up here in Hawaii)

Nameno, buddy, I know what you mean!

BD

And OH!

Thanx melanie! I need all the wellwishes I can get!

Xoxo

So, this is random, but I did make a sort of 'final' post about this thread finally ending and at the time, it was post #1200...that's why I made the comment about it being a good number but we're now on only #1190, so what happened? Lol, maybe I had a drink or two the night I wrote it, but I could have sworn we passed the 1200 mark. Hahaha! 

Double lol!

Don't worry, melz...we'll make the 1200 mark.

But I do have an question for you (while I'm drunk)

"Are Men more antisocial, especially on this site, than Women?"

Just curious. Heh.

(Should be worth about 10+ comments to 1200)

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Well, since I haven't had but little contact with the women, I can't really make an accurant account, but I would say I could estimate and say yes, a bit more. Some just want to play, which is fine with me. I can without talking. The few women I have played all talked at least some. A lot of the men do, too, but more men choose not to talk than women, speaking from my experience.

Cool. I can say, from personal experience, that the women are indeed more sociable. Though, trying (sincerely) not to sound obtusely sexist, because...man. They're relatably adorable when displaying their vulnerablities, their fight against social stigma and fallings in an male-dominated site.

I still believe, as an chauvenistic male player, that females on the whole have a ways ta go in keeping up with us on the chessboard. But man...ahem...they make chess far more socially acceptable. Your charismatic ways you write, detailing your experiences, and of course, your grace. Women have that beauty that often transcends (their profile pics-real or fake) the physical and shines through in posts, blogs or comments.

Undoubtedly, women get inundated with sexual innuendos, condescending remarks or just hated on. But they perservere. Just play, baby.

Hah!

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Even as a self-proclaimed chauvinistic male player, I still think most of your comment was well said. Obviously, there are differences between men and women and I thought the way you put it 'that beauty often transcends' was not only insightful and thoughtful, but very true in some cases. I appreciate the compliments personally and think that even though I don't always agree with everything you say, am glad that you are honest in a way that not only doesn't offend (me, anyway) but also points out some of the merits to having female players. Of course, you are correct in assuming we get a barrage of innuendos, remarks, and comments. I have also found that there are men who take us as serious players, too. As I've said before, I love this game and I enjoy this site. I have no intentions of quiting either. (Hopefully some day I may even be as good as you.)