Thanks for your input. A swift kick in the ...... Is certainly a good way to take someone's mind off their problems , but this forgiveness discussion was started as an opportunity to share an experience of mine with others in the hope of preventing others from needing relief. It's like the saying " an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure . "
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Apr 6, 2020
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#63
TIMOTHYTITUS wrote:
Okay, I'll have another shot at this, it's been over a year now and I still haven't been able to get closure on this forgiveness deal. I recently offended a new friend and regret it deeply , but I'm not allowed to contact them anymore. I was wrong , no excuses , but I was raised to be responsible for my actions and apologize when needed. In this situation it is really needed , but it's been prevented by this person refusing to accept correspondence from me. I understand the need for a person to protect themselves from more pain or discomfort , and choosing to ignore the person who is responsible for that pain or discomfort is certainly the easiest way to deal with it , but in my humble opinion it's not the best way. You see , we carry the same pain or discomfort from that incident with us until we deal with it properly and it grows in proportion to the amount of time it is left unattended like a cancer. Some of you have lived long enough to know what I'm talking about ; I hope the rest of you can trust me on be this one. So you don't just hurt the person that started it , but you hurt yourself as well , and it's been my experience that life , no matter how good , brings enough pain of it's own to make carrying any extra pain both unwise and unhealthy. Bottom line is we all make mistakes , how we fix them is up to us , and I refuse to cause another person more pain or discomfort by refusing forgiveness to be a repentant person. Thanks for your time and I hope that this helps you avoid some of the dumb stuff.
Forgiveness is for you, not the other person.
Apr 6, 2020
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#64
Itude wrote:
SoupTime4 wrote:
TIMOTHYTITUS wrote:
Okay, I'll have another shot at this, it's been over a year now and I still haven't been able to get closure on this forgiveness deal. I recently offended a new friend and regret it deeply , but I'm not allowed to contact them anymore. I was wrong , no excuses , but I was raised to be responsible for my actions and apologize when needed. In this situation it is really needed , but it's been prevented by this person refusing to accept correspondence from me. I understand the need for a person to protect themselves from more pain or discomfort , and choosing to ignore the person who is responsible for that pain or discomfort is certainly the easiest way to deal with it , but in my humble opinion it's not the best way. You see , we carry the same pain or discomfort from that incident with us until we deal with it properly and it grows in proportion to the amount of time it is left unattended like a cancer. Some of you have lived long enough to know what I'm talking about ; I hope the rest of you can trust me on be this one. So you don't just hurt the person that started it , but you hurt yourself as well , and it's been my experience that life , no matter how good , brings enough pain of it's own to make carrying any extra pain both unwise and unhealthy. Bottom line is we all make mistakes , how we fix them is up to us , and I refuse to cause another person more pain or discomfort by refusing forgiveness to be a repentant person. Thanks for your time and I hope that this helps you avoid some of the dumb stuff.
Forgiveness is for you, not the other person.
No, that is wrong,who it is for, is dependent on the circumstances of each incident.
It also does not have to be a dichotomy, it could be for all concerned
No its not wrong. Forgiveness allows you to let go of something. We have no control over how the other person will take it. You no longer carry that burden around. If the other person chooses to not forgive you, and they want to carry that anchor around? Then that is on them. You have done your part. But before this escalates any further. I will end this with this: We will agree to disagree.
Thanks for your input!
Apr 6, 2020
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#67
batgirl wrote:
Too much drama for me.
That's why you just hit and run forums. If something piques your interest, post on it, and move on.
Just the facts man. She was just stating her opinion, and that's a fact..
Nah, you already know it all 
Are you certain it's not 110%?
I wasn't attempting to defend her as I know she is perfectly able to do so herself. I was merely commenting on your comment .
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Nylonsock wrote:
“ To forgive is divine “ ..etc.
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......again OP, the main purpose your thread here is fantastic
satan needs his horns clear up his..........
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TheBestBeer_Root wrote:
Nylonsock wrote:
“ To forgive is divine “ ..etc.
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......again OP, the main purpose your thread here is fantastic
nough said
Wow... I’m sure mods going to love that, fella
I seriously have no idea what on earth you’re going on about
Itude wrote:
someone has stolen my account
Oh look, so may closed threads around nowadays
.... just for keepsake
I think I may have learned something here. apologies an make ups are different. self repentance is whats hidden here. (They called it the last word) (9destiny gun9)