Goodbye letter from chess_kebabs

Gosh, I only came here cuz I thought there'd be cake...

Why do you "feel the need" to question my opinion?

If you wanted a group "love in" you should have posted this tripe in the group forum (where you could have all fallen over yourselves to post the most sickly sweet declarations of undying love to someone you never met), as it is, this was posted in a public forum, so you can expect the full spectrum of reaction.

Let's just say that in some small way I present a little balance (Good grief! it's like Princess Diana died all over again.... can we expect a special shrine somewhere on this site where well-wishers may leave a virtual teddy bear? uurrrk! {that's the sound of rational folk dry heaving}).

Someone you never met?

I know all about Babs, I know what she is like, what she loves what she does not. I know her real name, I know how she looks, I know how her house look. I know what score her kid have in golf last month... Only thing i did not do is touch her flesh. I have not met many people IRL, people who I admire. And your talking about Diana?!?! Dude, you are sinking deeper and deeper... 

I'm sure many people would notice if you leave this site...

Streptomicin,

do you see that I used capital letters in "Princess Diana", denoting a proper noun? Let me be more specific: HRH Princess Diana.

No need to misconstrue what I have written, there's enough there to tear apart without presenting lies.

There's plenty who feel the way I do, knock yourselves out.

Bye bye.

I do not feel like sharing with chess.com about what I feel about this situation. It is little "drama queen" like but not for reasons other people mention here. It's cuz of the allegory Babs made about smoking and her addiction with chess.com and more with chess nuts.

People miss to understand what chess nuts is. It is not just a group. It's group of friends. We talked and joked daily, sometimes I had to catch up with 15 pages of notes if I was offline one day. And we did and do what friends do, joke around, argue, fight, make up, joke again... I can not understand why people think that online friendship is of less value compared to one in real life?

Now back to the start. 

I can just guess the reasons that made Babs to do what she did. I do not feel sry for what she did. I am mad at her. And I know she knows why. Last time we talked about something like this I was late home for 1 hour, now I am late again, and when you read this Babs just dare to say again how I do not care.

I know Babs that you are acting on impulse, and that what you did was right thing to do in that moment. Then why am I saying this topic is little Drama queen like. Because Babs, both you and me know that you want to, and you will come back next week/month/year... And why I know you will come back? Cuz this is just like breaking up with someone, or as you said Babs, quiting smoking... 

I did break up with someone and quit smoking for 1.5 year too. But one day... One day I meet my ex in night out - now we are married and have kid. One day someone really made me angry - now I smoke pack a day. Both wife and smoke are not good for my health, but I LOVE them. So what, 0 character, kill me! I'm just a human. One day Babs you will hear something about nuts (I hope it wont be anything about we chat that day for 2 hours), one day you will be back just to drop a note, one day you will be hooked up again.

And until that day, be in your bed at 3am, not with your team while we are playing in speed vote games. Be with your family without me having to hack your modem again. Be with your husband, show him that he means more to you than some bunch of imaginary people online. Be with your kid and come to Europe as soon as you can. Do your job and do not miss deadline again (if you ever did) cuz of nuts. Take your energy where it is needed the most.

We will be here when you come back, maybe in mess, but we will be here. So that is why this is not goodbye letter from me. Its just take care until you are back.

Until then Babs, until then...

PS. Only thing I am sry is that you did not make me an admin before you did this. But hey! The bright side is that I do not have to be serious and I can have my pink undies again. With Naabs missed in action, and Hamza with his new job, wo ho, Its party time again. Hulk get that necromancer hat out of your closet, we are rock 'n' rolling again!!

All the best to the next Chess Nuts Admin - Hamza.

Me too. 

To everyone involved in the dispute...it's just generally better to be nice.  When I first saw this thread, I also thought "hmm, again?" but when I read how many people appear to be touched by chess kababs, I realized she's obviously contributing a lot more to her fellows than I have the energy or willingness to do..so either way, drama queen or not...no need to be harsh. 

Chess Kababs...when you're ready to come back, feel free.  And if you want to leave again...that's fine too.  Just enjoy your life. 

is this the way we start this new year? bad OPENING babs

Babs was my first friend on Chess.com.  we only played a few games, but we would message every so often, catching up as old friends do.  I'll miss her a lot.  It is strange to think of being on the site without her face smiling up at me from my "friends on line" listing.  I respect her decision.  LOVE YA, BABS!

One of the saddest news I've read here on chess.com.

We'll miss you Babs.

I wish you the best you may want for you, your family and your business.

Take care.

Some songs I'll be listening to to cheer me up ...

I Got Tears in My Ears From Lying on My Back Crying on My Pillow Over You 

Walk Out Backwards Slowly So I'll Think You're Walking In 

If the Phone Doesn't Ring It's Me 

I've Got a Funny Feeling (I Won't Be Feeling Funny Very Long) 

I Don't Know Whether to Kill Myself or Go Bowling 

I'm Gettin' Gray From Being Blue 

I Keep Forgettin' I Forgot About You 

The Next Time You Throw That Fryin' Pan, My Face Ain't Gonna Be There 

it's sad to hear that babs.. good luck in your other priorities in life, god bless

Babs, I dont need words as this kiss spks a thousand of them.  X

wait...  it's her birthday too?

not sad to see her go, but i actually couldn't care less.  she was committed, i'll give her that.  but i disagreed with about 90% of the stuff she claimed or said.  i won't say good riddance but i will not lose a wink.

this is sweet.  but i'm kinda laughing inside. 

I do kind of agree with the guy who said that if you post something like this on a public forum, you have to take public opinion. If a private love-in is wanted, post the thread in private.

I have no opinion on the actual event, but people have a right to post their own assessment of the girl, even if they aren't positive. They should just do it politely, which seems to have been missed by a few.

I agree. I also think if people want to post something you do not agree with on a public forum, you have to take public opinion. I do not think it has to be polite all the time.  Who would want that? I would take indifference or fire as well. Too many varied opinions there. But the moderaters will decide on the matter of politeness and passion on their forum.

i think secretly the moderaters are pretty ok with the fact that chess.com was too much for babs' plate. 

btw how can being a member of a chess website interupt with a person's family?  that seems like one of the more silly things i've ever heard.

wife--  honey?

me--  go to hell!  i'm typing something about how wonderful erik is!

wife--  this i sgetting to be a real problem

me-- i think you're right.  i'm quitting chess.com. let's hold hands!

wife--  we're saved!

LOL 

Didn't she have something like 20,000 pts! She must have posted a lot. BTW, I called off work one night to play chess when my laptop wasn't working to bring it in to work to play I have called in late to work involved in chess...seriously. Chess is scary