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mpaetz

     You know you can see his name and picture at the top of his posts. You can just scroll past those posts--you won't be missing anything.

NervesofButter
mpaetz wrote:

     You know you can see his name and picture at the top of his posts. You can just scroll past those posts--you won't be missing anything.

I use an ad blocker to block his posts.

mpaetz

    I find him annoying enough that I often just pop his balloon to see what he'll do. It's sort of like using a laser pointer to get your cat to run around in a frenzy. It's entertaining for a bit and the cat gets some activity.

NervesofButter
mpaetz wrote:

    I find him annoying enough that I often just pop his balloon to see what he'll do. It's sort of like using a laser pointer to get your cat to run around in a frenzy. It's entertaining for a bit and the cat gets some activity.

The problem with "...to see what he'll do." is that he can and will react to anything and i mean anything.  With that kind of person its just a waste of time and energy.  Hey!  I just proved arguing online is a sport grin

mpaetz

     Yeah, but he'll bloviate left and right whether anyone is responding to him or not. He's been doing that since the day he became a member. At first I tried to just point out where he was wrong or contradicted himself or lied about what others said, but now I sometimes feel that some of the nastiest things he says deserve a refutation.

NervesofButter
mpaetz wrote:

     Yeah, but he'll bloviate left and right whether anyone is responding to him or not. He's been doing that since the day he became a member. At first I tried to just point out where he was wrong or contradicted himself or lied about what others said, but now I sometimes feel that some of the nastiest things he says deserve a refutation.

Again...he does not care if he is right, wrong, or indifferent.  As long as people are paying attention to him that is what he is after.  Its up to you if you want to keep interacting with him.  I just think its a waste of time.  But to each his own.

NervesofButter

https://www.theexceptionalskills.com/arguing-on-the-internet/

Arguing on the Internet is like running into a brick wall: it’s stupid, it wastes time, and it can leave you with a throbbing headache.

1. It’s ripe for misunderstanding.

Anytime you communicate or argue behind a screen via text (whether on socials, emails, or texting), the opportunity for misunderstanding exponentially grows.

Why?

You lose out on all nonverbal communication. A great majority of communication is nonverbal – your body language and your tone.

You can say one phrase and it have multiple meanings depending on the tone you use or the body language you show. You don’t have any of that when you’re behind text on a screen.

So what happens?

You begin to interpret and make assumptions about how the other person is saying it. Depending on our mood and our thoughts of the person, we inflect different emotions and intentions to what the other person is saying.

And generally, as humans, we assume the negative.

It can be so easy to assume a sarcastic tone or anger or a negative attitude or negative intention.

Then we may argue back over something that never was negative in the first place. All because we made assumptions about the other person’s emotions or intentions – because we couldn’t see the nonverbal communication.

 

2. People don’t seek to understand. They just want to spout their opinion.

Usually, when people argue on the internet, it’s not to resolve an issue or to understand each other, it’s just about spouting one’s opinion.

That’s ineffective and dangerous.

Why?

It’s ineffective because when everyone is shouting and spouting opinions and no one is listening  – what’s the point?

You rarely (if ever) are going to change someone’s opinion just by spouting an opinion.

And you rarely will ever win someone over by shouting “You’re wrong!”.

When someone tells you that “you are wrong”, what’s your reaction? Do you say “hmm, you might be right”, or do you generally get defensive?

Usually, when you tell someone “you are wrong”, defensive mode comes up and they become even more entrenched in their argument, even if they are wrong, because of a sense of pride.

There are better ways to do that.

And why is it dangerous?

Because when we are all shouting our opinions at each other and not listening or trying to understand each other, it separates us even more.

We become more and more “enemies” and hostile toward one another and to the other viewpoints.

We begin to see each other as objects that we lay labels on instead of people.

And that’s sad.

 

3. People say things they normally wouldn’t say behind a screen.

There’s a sense of safety behind a computer screen or phone.

People feel so much safer saying statements they normally wouldn’t say in person.

And that can be dangerous.

It’s easy to see people as objects or to minimize the impact of what we are saying when we are separated behind a screen.

And, too often, saying something behind a screen is a coward’s way out.

Typing behind a screen also brings out the worst in people.

One of the worst parts of “arguments”, especially in comment sections of news articles, is that people are insulting, name-calling, and being rude and negative to those who don’t agree with them.

People patronize, belittle and blame.

Often the worse in people come out.

Many would not do the same if they were speaking face-to-face.

It can also be easy to do something you might regret. In a moment of anger, one little message and one little click can cause damage and hurt that you can never take back.

Optimissed

You can apologise and if the person was worth knowing, they would accept the apology.

idilis

But first we all need to apologize to Richard. And a magnificent sea bird