Do you get angry when you lose?

I don't understand why sometimes my opponents do one of these things when they lose the game or are in a losing position :

1) They disconnect and don't come back.

2) They let their time run out and you have to wait sometimes several minutes for their time to run out

3) They insult you

4) They do one the things listed in 1 through 3 and then offer you a rematch.  When you refuse, they insult you again or say that you are "scared"

I don't really understand why people act so passive aggressive when they lose.  Don't people realize that that their own bad decisions are the reasons why they lose at chess ?

people do 1 because it's just a rage quit really but you shouldn't really have a problem with that as you only have to wait a couple of seconds.

people do 2 because they're hoping you resign out of boredom and they win.

people do 3 because they're kids and it creates an excuse for themselves as for why they lost apart from that they're bad.

people do 4 to get 'revenge' after you beat them and calling you scared is a way to come up with an excuse for themselves so they think they're better than you..

No.  I would be angry all the time otherwise. 

No, I don't get angry. The people I play are at my level so I lose plenty of games (and also win about the same number). And it's only games.

Actually I probably should get more angry in real life but I just can't.

No, only sad

Losing is the only thing that makes me feel alive.

you can learn from your mistakes

I have a pillow to punch, but I dont blame my opponent but my blunders !!!

Sometimes I get extremely angry when I keep losing but I don't do any of the things you listed. I get angry because of my poor moves or blunders. I, however, try to learn from my mistakes.

In my experience, Anger only causes you to be less creative in chess and end up losing more games lol

 No, but I do believe that Dr. Robert B. Banner might have a different opinion on this, 

I usually get mad when I lose, but you have to approach the loss with a different mindset. You must be knowing that this loss will improve your skills. Insulting is of course poor sportsmanship, but those people just really want to win, and have not comprehended the concept of improving.

Personally, I'm disappointed in my ability - almost always either overlooking a move or not being able to plan a good strategy for attacking my opponent - but never angry at my opponent. He won either because I lost it or he had a really good combination and I give him a trophy for that.

Also, losses are part of the learning experience.  I used to lose most of my games as Black because I was not aggressive enough.  Now I'm 9W 4D 4L daily with Black and am going the other way: I'm either too aggressive or I don't know how to plan well enough.  I either case, I will learn.  I've also begun toying with 1 d4 for the first time in my life - I always played 1 e4 - because it expands my experiences and it's fun to try new things.  So, even if I lose, It doesn't bother me too much: I'm experience more aspects of chess and am learning.

Well said,MickinMD...well said! 👏👏👏

The reason those things happen to you is very simple. You are playing against people. People have emotions. If you played against a  computer none of those 4 things would ever happen. Compare it to driving down the highway and signaling a lane change and switching lanes. Do this enough times and there will be a small segment of the population that is mad at you for doing this and respond in anger. A driverless car will not. It will adjust as necessary and not aggressively respond.

 @lfPatriotGames Good to know that you also mirror, signal, check blindspot, manoeuvre, some people just pull out with no indication & without looking properly.

Using your car analogy, you could be slowed down by heavy traffic, getting angry won't get you there any quicker, you've just got to go with the flow 

@goodduck If 1) They disconnect and don't come back.  I'm sure they forfeit/ lose that game.

If 2) They let their time run out and you have to wait sometimes several minutes for their time to run out.  Block & they'll never be able to play you again, report if you wish (be sure it wasn't a connection fault though, you can tell when by intermittent or no connection bars/ presence).

3) They insult you.  Block, or if serious then take a screenshot & report:

What should I do if another member is rude or abusive?:

https://support.chess.com/customer/portal/articles/1444877

One time I lost a game because my mouse was acting  slowly. After losing the game I banged hard against the table. I bought a new one after finding out it is no longer working.

Brendan, yes. thats why i thought it might be a good analogy that many people can relate to. There will always be some minor portion of the population that gets mad no matter what you do. some people will be mad at losing a chess game just as some people will be mad that you are on the road taking up "their" space.

I have no problem with losing a match. It s just a game, and sometimes - to often -I only have to shake heads about my stupidness.

btw: good cooment in #2, ginger ninja