STOP BULLYING

im jewish so i dont even need to try

Estoy feliz de no estar allá en estados unidos y no tener que soportar a gente detestable, narcisista y con plata que necesita de otros para poder sentirse bien con sigomismo

uhh

Bullying is horrible and mean.

Isn't it essential to not merely focus on our understanding of the negativity that bullying creates (we all know it's bad - spoiler), but rather try to brainstorm a solution? Isn't it sometimes important to go through suffering to grow as a human? Suffering instills perseverance which builds character and fosters hope. This can be seen through logic and in Romans 5 of the Bible, and there is true value and growth through pain, so what're some ways we can think of to forgive bullying, move on, or prevent it instead of simply dwelling on how it's, "horrible and mean." (ArranVid1).

I have been bullied throughout my life. When I was in primary school, when I was a young child, three boys used to punch and kick me several times for some reason. Maybe they thought I was weird or something, I do not know. Even before our football school match (I was a striker at the time), they would beat me up a bit. How am I supposed to play football properly for the team if you are going to kick me in the stomach (that is what one of them did). I am 31 years old now. I hope those three males have matured and become less violent and I hope they are not bullies anymore...but I doubt it. Maybe something in their upbringing made them behave like that.

My dad also has an abusive personality. When I was 9 years old, he punched me in the head because I was annoying him. His own dad used to punch him in the head, so he thought that it was the right thing to do. My dad also physically pushes my mum, my sister and I...well, he used to. He is also known for gaslighting my mum, sister and I often. But overall, my dad was not as bad as the bullies in school.

Also, being an ethnic minority in a white majority country like England is hard...my naive parents did not realize it would be difficult for someone of my ethnicity. I have faced racism and so has my dad. My dad has faced worse racism than I have (the racism that my dad and I have faced is when we go out in public, the racism never happens by classmates...also, the teachers can sometimes be racist. Also, I think there were border guards that were being racist to my mum and I when we went to an Eastern European country).

When I was a teenager, my classmates were supposed to be sleeping in dormitories and stuff in Patterdale Hall. Nobody wanted me to be in their room...it was so sad. I was so angry and sad with them that I said that I would even sleep outside the hall in the rain if they did not want me to be in their rooms. I know that I am a bit weird, I know that I am a bit hyperactive and impulsive (traits that I perhaps got from my mum and dad, because they both seem to be hyperactive and impulsive too) but so what? Every human being is weird in their own way. Diversity makes the world a less boring place, it makes the world more interesting.

You are right that the bullying I faced did make me into a tougher person, it did make me more resilient. For example, I have also faced sexual assault a few times. One of those times was at night time in a car park. My mum, my dad, my sister and I had just gone into this dodgy hotel at night time. My parents told me to check the car outside to make sure the car was ok, so I went outside on my own. Unfortunately, this weirdo was outside...he was taller than me. He started getting agitated, he thought that I was looking at his car, but I wasn't...I was looking at my own car. He started threatening me, I think he was just trying to see whether I was submissive and passive and stuff. That's when he started grabbing my arm and he was trying to pull me, he was trying to kidnap me. He had an accomplice with him. Fortunately, I broke free from his grip and ran to safety inside the hotel and I told everything that happened. I was thinking, "I've been through a lot of stuff! It's not fair that this bad stuff is happening to me all over again! I will not let you kidnap me!". Bullying needs to leave, the world should have zero bullying. Unfortunately, some humans are bullies and they will always be bullies.

The same thing happened to me months ago I think. I am sorry that that person bullied you . Most people like my chess, and they say that I am a good chess player. But it was this one guy who said that I sucked and stuff...and that made me sad. I was running out of time, but I do usually play 1 minute bullet games after all. I think I was even doing very well against him, but I ran out of time and he said I sucked. He said something like, "why does Chess.com keep matching you and me, you suck". It kind of hurt my soul, lol. But every human is different, and that is his personality. I have moved on though, it was not a big thing compared to other things I have been through in my life. Good luck and all the best .

tysm arran...i have been bullied sooo many times here. but ive learned to fight back w/ common sense and calling them out when they do a 3rd person in or when they start it. waiting to counter is surprizingly effective ::-) (i wear glasses).

You are welcome, Thee_Ghostess_Lola 😊 👍

You have to retaliate on the chessboard. One of my opponents messaged me things such as "k-why-ess" (just sound it out it is supposed to be the letters but I can't write that without being banned). I decided to accept his rematch and went 7.5-1.5 against him. The games: https://www.chess.com/games/archive/chesslyadvertiser?gameOwner=other_game&gameType=recent&oppsumpert&timeSort=desc

Unfortunatley I don't have screenshots but trust me, some nasty messages were posted

(I was going for an adoption but sadly I blundered my queen in a game)

"Knowledge is good." -Emil Faber

To do that, you must first be competent at the game. I only started playing a couple of months ago, and I still stink. In addition to my lack of skill in the game, I've been called a variety of names practically every time I've accepted the chat. Just a few minutes ago I was called a disgrace to my country, which very successfully made me quit the game, and I think I'll start looking for something better to do with my time.

Great comment. Sorry to hear about all the bullying you've received, but hats off for staying strong. You sound like you have a good attitude. All the best

You’re like the human version of a software update—always popping up when nobody asked for you, taking forever to get to the point, and somehow making everything more complicated than it needs to be. Honestly, if ignorance is bliss, you must be living in paradise. You have a face that would make onions cry. You are the human version of cramps. Don't worry, the first 40 years of childhood are always the hardest. Have a nice day...elsewhere.

4 eyes short ahh

Grow up ffs.

Bullying in a chess forum is wild. Just solve yalls beef by chessboxing lol.