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Be carefull with commenting on your moves. If you think it is a mistake, why should you point it out for him?? It happened to me when I was in a live chess game I made a mistake which costed me my bishop. My female opponent said: why are you doing that?  I answered: I will explain it to you later.  She kept looking for traps for a while  and then took the bishop. After the game I told her that it was a mistake. If I had said during the game that it was a mistake then it would be beneficial for her.

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It's not rude - move on

Avatar of Beelzebub666

If you find something to do with the finer points of etiquette rude and someone else doesn't, that's your problem rather than theirs.  Some people just want a quiet anonymous game of chess.  The site caters for that as well as the people who use it as a social club.

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its a personal thing.

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Usually, the winner shouldn't be the one to ask for a rematch since it appears like he's trying to take advantage.

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Gert-Jan wrote:

Be carefull with commenting on your moves. If you think it is a mistake, why should you point it out for him?? It happened to me when I was in a live chess game I made a mistake which costed me my bishop. My female opponent said: why are you doing that?  I answered: I will explain it to you later.  She kept looking for traps for a while  and then took the bishop. After the game I told her that it was a mistake. If I had said during the game that it was a mistake then it would be beneficial for her.


I tend to acknowledge my opponent's strikingly good moves with a "good move" comment. Is this a 'good move' on my part?

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I only comment on the game in reply to my opponent's comments, but never say anything specific. It's never polite to ignore someone, but it's not polite to bug someone who wants to play in silence either. I don't think there's one general rule here, just take it game by game and opponent by opponent, be courteous and use your judgement to decide what will be appropriate behaviour. Trophies are a great idea in most circumstances after the game.

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Vance917 wrote:

Wow.  Devil's advocate, or just plain dumb?  There is nothing subtle about it, on either side of the Big Pond.  You must just like hearing yourself talk.


 You mistake insults for arguments.

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whats thanks giving????

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ashwath wrote:

whats thanks giving????


 When the pilgrims first arrived in America it was inhabited by Native Americans.  They were a peaceful people, and gave the new pilgrims food to help them through the first harsh winter.  In return the Americans killed most of them and stole their land, for which they are very thankful.  Hence the Thanksgiving Holiday.

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Beelzebub666 wrote:
ashwath wrote:

whats thanks giving????


 When the pilgrims first arrived in America it was inhabited by Native Americans.  They were a peaceful people, and gave the new pilgrims food to help them through the first harsh winter.  In return the Americans killed most of them and stole their land, for which they are very thankful.  Hence the Thanksgiving Holiday.


Although this sounds terrible, it is unfortunately true.  The Indians saved

the pilgrims from starvation during the first year of their stay on the

North American continent.  The relationship between the early pilgrims

and the American Indians was one of survival, sharing everything and

teaching each other the best of their cultures. Thanksgiving day was

a shared meal to give thanks for all they had.

As time went on and more settlers arrived the Indians kept getting

pushed off their rightful lands, to the point of war.  Everytime the

settler's moved West the Indians lost land of fought and lost lives. 

Now the American Indians have reserved parcels of land granted to

them by the United States government.

Like some things that occur in history, there may be regrets.  It also

may be difficult to correct.  If there are any American Indians that would

like to comment on this please feel free to post.  I am not an expert on

this subject and your feelings would be appreciated.

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Re.: Thanksgiving - Addams Family Values (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0106220/) illustrated it quite well ...

[as an Indian, ad-libbing during a Thanksgiving play
Wednesday: Wait! 
Amanda: What? 
Wednesday: We cannot break bread with you. 
Amanda: Huh? Becky, what's going on? 
Becky: [whispered] Wednesday! 
Wednesday: You have taken the land which is rightfully ours. Years from now my people will be forced to live in mobile homes on reservations. Your people will wear cardigans, and drink highballs. We will sell our bracelets by the road sides, you will play golf, and enjoy hot hors d'oeuvres. My people will have pain and degradation. Your people will have stick shifts. The gods of my tribe have spoken. They have said, "Do not trust the Pilgrims, especially Sarah Miller." 
Amanda: Gary, she's changing the words. 
Wednesday: And for all these reasons I have decided to scalp you and burn your village to the ground. 

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The queen is majestic, brave, confident and whether she be wood, plastic, glass or even marble, she is so beautiful.  If I could be a chess piece, it would most certainly be the Queen.

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No comment!

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Exquisite-Fairy wrote:

The queen is majestic, brave, confident and whether she be wood, plastic, glass or even marble, she is so beautiful.  If I could be a chess piece, it would most certainly be the Queen.


She's also incapable of thinking for herself, subservient to her king and usually controlled by a man.  A fine choice.

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Sounds like SMB to me!

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Vance917 wrote:

I had a couple of players beat me in tight games, pleasant conversation, no animosity, no stall tactics, nothing objectionable.  I send a trophy and a friend request and request a rematch.  No response to any of this.  Tell me this is not rude.

Thanks for the trophy would be good enough. Nobody has to be your friend or accept rematch, some people just want to play chess quietly, you know - get better, prepare to OTB games, etc. Do you think all GMs are friends? Get facebook for friends.


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or better yet dont use facebook/myspace and meet people in real life :)

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Olimar wrote:

or better yet dont use facebook/myspace and meet people in real life :)


Exactly! And play some real chess (OTB), so you will know if the person, that just won a hard game against you, will suddenly want to become your best friend or accept rematch.

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Exquisite-Fairy wrote:

The queen is majestic, brave, confident and whether she be wood, plastic, glass or even marble, she is so beautiful.  If I could be a chess piece, it would most certainly be the Queen.