Level of rudeness at different rating levels

What are your experiences with people sending rude messages? Did it change with your Elo?

I've had about 10 in the last 2 days, if you put aside the ones which are just abuse and slurs, the rest are either saying GG or demanding that I resign because I went down an exchange (far from an end game, time in the balance, the game being far from over), or harassing me about not giving them a rematch. People also spam the draw button on occasion. Quite often I think they're just trying to distract me with the messages so my time runs down, which obviously is cheating, I just had to report the opponent in my last game. It's something I encountered a lot at the under 1000 level, but then it seemed to go away until where I am now.

Am I just cursed? Is there a higher rating to aim for where this behaviour mostly stops? Seriously considering turning off chat by default, which is a shame as I've made some friends through in-game chat.

-In time perhaps you get a sense before accepting the chat if they are or not rude.For example, after one loses they are more likely to lash out.(They don't complain when they are winning). Or if they have a menacing avatar.

-If you know how to talk back to these people,do it.The main idea though is to win at chess, not to win in verbal disputes.

-read the forums that are already here about this subjects

-I think there are rude people at any level, or agreeable

-it's funny how they want to chat during games, in tense times, and no one sends a message after game.Often they distract from focusing on game,so their chatter isn't important.

-Also,if you pay enough games,you get to know people around here

It's not pleasant what you are experiencing. Unfortunately there are a lot of ee-jits on this forum who don't know how to behave. And I doubt they will ever go away.

It's more common in bullet. Just let the trollers know that they are insignificant, then leave. Works every time.

Lol

In my experience, the rudeness gets worse as the ratings get higher, unfortunately.

The higher up the ladder you climb, the more seriously players tend to take the game - and, as a result: the angrier they get when they lose. (Or, the more spiteful they get, when they win.)

These days, I keep my chat disabled by default. Chess is for chess. If I want to chat with other players, well ... that's what the forums are for.

I've climbed from 1000-1700 from the beginning of 2023, I've noticed no one chats...

The past few months, the most abusive players I’ve run into were cheating and smug about their advantage. To one who told me I should resign, I said I was gathering date. He was banned the next day.

Yeah, I'd say the middle ratings are the most chill.

At low ratings people learned a new opening or attack and think they're unbeatable so get mad

But as they get better, they lose 1000s of games, and they realize they're not amazing, and losing is part of the game, etc. So the middle ratings chatting doesn't happen.

But then at high ratings people have invested a lot into it, so they get mad again.

Of course it also just depends on the person (and the age of the player). There are jerks and nice people at every rating.

hence why you keep telling people to mute chat i guess lol
But what if you actually wanna say something (positive) to the other person?

I find more trash talk below about 1200. Above that people seem to have the self-respect not to act like babies. Nobody has demanded I resign or demanded a rematch or said "gg" before the game was over in a long time--and almost all of them were under 1200.

For what it's worth, if you want me to play very hard all the way to mate, a good way to make sure of it is to say "gg" before I resign. Especially since I do resign when I think I have no chance, so if I haven't done it you might be missing something.

But I do say "gg" myself after games, and it's not meant as an insult, though I guess some take it that way.

I think there’s more respect the higher you go, as people have really earned their rating

Just don't pay attention to all these trolls. If somebody spams draw requests, there should be an option "Don't show draw requests for this game" on the window where the draw is offered. Press it, and all the draw offers will automatically be declined.

I get talked to in a rude way on occasion. It's not super common. I just try to play solid and ignore. Although I report almost everyone.

Can't disable draw requests I don't think, as I play on mobile. It seems like your mileage may vary, I think I'm going to mute it for a while and enjoy the peace and quiet. I'll miss the occasional fun in-game banter but it's just too much of a distraction when they're being toxic. I wish the site had much more stringent enforcement of the rules about things which would get you kicked out an OTB tournament like distracting the opponent, nasty comments, demanding a resignation etc.

Coming from an older gentleman...people have become more rude and arrogant over the past 5 years or so generally speaking in my humble opinion.

People deserve to be abused if their ears are open? That’s a strange position.

I have the same feeling that its worse at the higher levels. There are even titled players who spam a draw after every move when they are down a rook for nothing.