Tom, maybe you should move this to General Chess discussion. Seems like this thread isn't actually off-topic.
what do you want out of a game of chess?

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I don't know that it is on topic really. I'm not asking how to be good at chess, I'm asking how to enjoy it.
What's the best approach to get the most satisfaction?
Should I try to win or maybe just attack or what?
I want to have fun. How best to enjoy it?
I mean is it more rewarding to win? Or to enjoy being creative? Is it about expressing ourselves? How to be happy playing chess?
I used to try to win but lately I'm so defensive I'm bored stupid.