MAY I MAKE A FEW SUGGESTIONS?
I see Forums as venue to freely exchange and discuss ideas where people's understanding of specific topics is deepened. However, discussions often can get heated up when people starts to veer outside the topic on hand and when comparisons are made in an attempt to show who is better (a holier than thou attitude). I may have been guilty of this as well in the past, so my apologies.
The moderator can do a lot in making the discussions civil by tightening on the rein when somebody is out of whack and by constantly reminding the contributors about the objective of that specific forum. He should remain neutral although he may cite his position beforehand but afterwards he should run the discussions in neutral gear. He should be a skilled peacemaker.
The moderator too should never single out anybody and should not get involved in anyway on any personal tirade and accusation like what seemingly is now happening here in this forum on databases.
The use of proverbs and scriptures should be (as much as possible) avoided especially when used without elaborating how they are connected to the topic or to a particular post because they can be misconstrued as a rebuke. I believe scriptures are powerful but when used wrongly (yes, God's words can be used wrongly but please understand that I'm not trying to start a religious discussion here), it may be misinterpreted as saying 'I'm holier than thou' and 'I know much better than you.'
For example, I've scanned through the posts between MainStreet and Odessa and I tried to find how MainStreet's (politically incorrect, at least here in the U.S.) accusation started. I can be wrong but I guess it started when MS quoted a scripture about pride in which Odessa jumped in (I would say quitely but aggressively) and seemingly hit a very sensitive chord in MS's psyche.
I hope they've genuinely patched up now because I can see that both MS and Odessa can contribute a lot positively to the present discussion. Calculating the top 5 ratings for each side involves some work and we have to cite Odessa for that.
So that's my piece. I hope this post would not cause me to be singled out too as I'm just trying to help restore order here as one of the older players. :)
Btw, I can bet confidently that Odessa is a woman, a fine young woman in fact but perhaps in the mold of Hilary Clinton and Sarah Palin. (Wohh, those are strong women political figures, and I should not dwell further than this..and Odessa, I mean that as a compliment).
Thanks to all of you especially to you MainStreet for having the courage to start such a sensitive topic and to those who submitted posts that made sense. I hope that all of us from hereon can learn to agree to disagree and move forward to becoming a positive influence to make this site the best ever! (I'm sure many will agree that the people in the site (not the site's features) is the one that makes it the best.)
Cheers!







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lol!
a hollow victory for the databased user... needing help to win a meaningless game... how pathetic